Second, if another thinks highly of the narcissist then there are expectations which that person has that the narcissist must fulfil. Happiness, joy, and the effort to please others is not normally undertaken by the narcissist except in the beginning or potential ending relationship.
At all other times, the narcissist believes his/ her presence, is clearly and abundantly sufficient to maintain the loyalty, trust, affection, and respect of those which the narcissist already considers his/ her object, so the narcissist will postpone, withhold, or procrastinate the continuing efforts that are essential to maintaining any kind of meaningful relationship.
This impairs the capacity for a committed relationship with a narcissist. Narcissists will never accept blame for anything that happens in a relationship. A relationship with a narcissist can be at times fun and invigorating. The best advice for anyone involved in a relationship with a narcissist is to RUN.
My consoler says that my husband is a narcissist, is verbally and emotionally abusive and is most likely rapid cycling bi polar with fits of mania and rage no depression. We were married in June of 2010 so the marriage is still pretty young I am doubting myself he says I did not give our marriage a chance that marriage (love) is through thick and thin we stand by each other, but it is destroying me and he will never say he is sorry.
I was married once before for 8 years to a verbally abusive cheating jerk and I stayed way to long I do not want to do that again. I have reached my limit if he is not willing to do the work I am not willing to stay.
I also found out that his father was hospitalized with a bipolar episode when he was young, that his mother was hospitalized for manic depression/suicide attempts and the state threatened to take her children and then I learned that he had an episode and threatened to kill some people and the president and was sent to an institution and was in a bipolar breakdown for months to follow at home.
I learned all of this after our marriage.
I don't want to change my last name thats an issue, I don't want to do my banking with him thats and issue...my po box thats an issue I tell him I need to come visit or he needs to come home so we can work this out he tells me I just need to get over it he says I am not a good wife he feels no love he wants a divorce.
Narcissistic Husband : We go to consoling we sign the papers and file. I am scared I am throwing it all away property, house, land, federal garden grant, businesses, boat....for what. I am an alcoholic and stopped drinking 3 years ago during our relationship he still drinks alot and smokes marijuana this is hard for me to deal with at times. Can someone help me find strength?
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